Attn: All the Single Ladies — You Are Astonishing!

~ Melina Kantor Hello, All the Single Ladies, My last post in our honor was about HEA’s and why we are more than capable of writing them. I’m back! I wasn’t planning on writing another post about “single ladies,” but there’s something I feel the need to discuss. Actually, there's a part of that something I’d rather not discuss in public, but I’ll take one for the team and admit that two weeks ago, I went to a singles event at my synagogue. (Yeah, I know. Gasp. Ick. What was I thinking? In all fairness, it was one of the nicest I've been to and with the exception of the problem I'm about to talk about, I actually enjoyed it.) I live in Jerusalem, where being single, especially at my age, is not the norm and something a lot of people want to help me “fix.” There are even matchmakers floating around. No kidding. They’re all very nice, but yeah, things can get a little “Fiddler on the Roof.” So there I was at Shabbat dinner, seated at a table with a randomly selected batch of single men, thinking, as I often do, about how I could work this particular situation into a novel. And then came the speaker. A married male. He had some questions and suggestions: “Think about why you’re not married.” Easy peasy. Because I haven’t met the right guy. Actually, I'd bet that most of the people in this room are single because they haven't found matches who meet their standards.  Plus, I'm busy living my own life.  Do you take the time to talk to yourself and get to know yourself, who you are, and what you want in a relationship?” Oh, honey. I’m single. I spend a lot of time with myself. I think I’ve got the “knowing myself” part covered. As for the what I want? Bless your heart. I actually have figured it out, and I shared it with the world. Thanks for asking, though.” “Confidence will help attract the right person. What do you need to do to develop the confidence you need to attract the right guy?” Look, I may be five feet tall and I have a voice not so dissimilar to Bernadette’s from The Big Bang Theory. I can be shy and introverted at times. I'll never be willing to bungee jump off a tall building.  But if you think I lack confidence, think again.  I sat there annoyed and edgy.  Honestly, I was insulted. Enough with the assumptions. Confidence manifests itself in many forms, some of which may not be so obvious. My single friends don't sit at home in sweatpants, eating Ben & Jerry's and feeling sorry for themselves because they aren't married. They're too busy buying their own homes, writing novels, producing podcasts, moving up in their careers, and, in the case of one friend, running marathons. She's trained for and run seven. Even my single friends with multiple cats do not, in any way, fit the description of a "crazy old cat lady." As for me, I've been busy building a life and a business in a new country. By myself (sadly, my two dogs haven't been pulling their weight). This got me thinking about romance novel heroines, and I had a sudden realization.  Guess what! HEA’s come at the end of a romance novel. Which means that in every romance novel ever written, the protagonist is a fellow single lady throughout the majority of the story. And that means that we’d better portray them as the strong, independent, and confident women they are. So, how do we do that? What are the characteristics of a truly confident protagonist? Let's discuss. Thunderdome style. Ready?

Who's more confident?

Buffy Summers vs Rachel Greene

Rachel Green

Okay, I'll explain. Combat boots, trucks, and power tools don’t equal confidence. Your protagonist may appear to be tough as nails. You can dress her in leather jackets. You can put her on a motorcycle. But all that is for show. When it comes to confidence, you might want to dig deeper. Let’s take a look at Buffy. She’s pretty tough, right? I mean, the woman had to figure out the plural of apocalypse once saving the world became something she did on a regular basis. Now, it feels like sacrilege to say anything critical of Buffy or The Honorable Joss Whedon, and I hate being mad at my beloved Xander. But when it comes to Riley, I can’t help it. Riley made Buffy visibly shrink. Instead of admiring her for her mental, emotional and physical strength, he was jealous. Ew. Jealousy is more than "not good." It's downright dangerous. And Buffy saw the jealousy and tried to make herself less than to boost his ego. When (spoiler alert), Riley was on his way out of the picture and I was waiting to cheer, Xander gave Buffy the most insulting lecture ever, which Buffy not only endured but seemed to take to heart, and then she got all weepy that Riley the Manipulative Wimp was leaving. Seriously? She never should have put up with him for so long. She needed the confidence to know that she deserved better. She needed to make this her anthem: Note: I’ve taken self-defense and am hoping to take more classes. Yeah, it feels good to know that I have the ability to break a brick with my bare hand (pictured here wrapped in ribbon), but what matters to me more than that is the mental strength the class gave me. I have confidence in my ability to protect myself. All of the protagonists in the trilogy I’m working on take self-defense. They wear shirts that say “Fight Like a Girl,” but they never have to lift a finger to anyone. The point is, they could But again, it's the mental strength that matters more. The ability to be alone, make one’s own decisions and take care of oneself does equal confidence. You know who has that ability? Rachel Green. And yes, I do mean the one with the haircut. She left her loser fiance and moved to the city, where she cut up her father’s credit cards and got a job to support herself. Waitress at a coffee house may not be the first job that comes to mind when thinking about success, but for Rachel, even though she wasn’t great at her job, it helped her grow up and develop a whole boatload of skills. She knew what she liked and she knew she wanted to end up in fashion. And that was before Ross. Then, when Ross came into the picture, she had enough confidence to know what she didn’t deserve: She didn’t even fall for this romantic gesture. Don’t you love how she handled this? Look how successful Rachel was by the end of the show’s run. Yes, she ended up with Ross. But that wasn’t because she had to fix anything about herself in order to be in a relationship with him. Ross had to grow and change to get himself up to her standards.

Who's more confident?

Elena Alvarez vs Rory Gilmore

Elena Alvarez

Okay, I'll explain. Brains and success don’t equal confidence. You know those books Sarah Wendell of Smart Bitches refers to as “competence porn?” It’s always fun to read about a woman to is great at her job and can take care of herself. You could argue that the brilliant Rory Gilmore is the poster girl for competence porn. You would think that with her high grades, acceptance to three ivy-league schools, and the adoration of her entire town, she’d have just a little more faith in herself. Alas, no. She ended up with Jess even after he spoke to her like this: Um. . . I don't think so. And not long after that, she slept with her married ex-boyfriend. That's right. Attractive, intelligent Rory who could pretty much take her pick of guys lacked the confidence to do just that. So she went running back to Dean. Not to mention that after she got some harsh criticism about her performance as an intern, she stole a yacht and dropped out of Yale. OMGTWFBBQ. Are you kidding me? If she'd had confidence, after that one foreboding night alone cleaning her keyboard, she would have washed that man right out of her hair:  I guarantee that the quality of her life would have shot up, and the Gilmore Girls reboot would have been less depressing. Living “one day at a time” and leaning on female family and friends does equal confidence. Elena Alvarez, the fifteen-year-old daughter of a self-proclaimed "badass" single female veteran and granddaughter of an immigrant from Cuba certainly has role models when it comes to confidence and independence. Her best friend, Carmen, is also pretty incredible. Elena refuses to wear make-up and is never afraid to stand up for what she believes in: For the sake of those of you who haven’t seen the Netflix reboot of “One Day at a Time,” I won’t spoil the show even more. But I will warn you that the father - daughter dance scene of the season finale will rip your heart out and then totally make your year. (Not to mention that the whole storyline with Elena's outfit had me all choked up.) Just trust me on this. Watch the show (it gets better towards the end of the season) and pay attention to the behavior of the women - especially Elena. And check out Rita Moreno opening those curtains at the 0:35 mark: Every woman, single or married, should have that kind of confidence.

Who's more confident?

Amy Farrah Fowler vs Maria

Amy Farrah Fowler

Okay, I'll explain. Knowing what you like, not conforming, and asking for what you want does equal confidence.  I don't even know how to start talking about Amy Farrah Fowler. She slices brains with the utmost precision. She dresses the way she feels most comfortable and doesn't adjust her style to fit in with the more classicly trendy Penny and Bernadette. She enjoys playing the harp and isn't shy about singing: And she takes zero s*&% from Sheldon: Best of all, when it comes to sex. . . well, this says it all: In fact, Amy and Sheldon's relationship has sparked a whole new conversation about consent. Feeling pretty does not equal confidence. Is there a more romantic movie than West Side Story? Wow. Isn’t it beautiful? I could listen to the songs, which I used to sing when I studied voice, on a continuous loop. Isn’t Maria confident? She stands up to her family and recognizes how gorgeous she is: If only she didn’t feel pretty just because she was “loved by a pretty wonderful boy.” There’s just one other tiny, itty bitty little thing. . .  Uh, Maria? A boy like that? Really? Because you know, he um. . . would and did kill your brother. Well, that, and you’ve known him twenty-four hours. She was an ingenue. Clearly, she didn't realize what that leads to. Yes, conflict fuels our stories. But in my opinion, there is such a thing as too much conflict. How about this version of the story: Maria sends Tony’s ass to jail, helps her family’s business thrive while she figures out what she wants to do in life, and marries a guy who is actually deserving of her (and isn’t, you know, a murderer). So. . .  As you can see from these examples, plenty of women who are in relationships a) don’t know what they want and b) lack confidence. You know what else? If the argument that men are attracted to confidence was 100% true, Julia Roberts would have gotten herself off the streets and into more “decent” clothes before Richard Gere was attracted to her. (And by extension, Eliza Doolittle would have lost her accent on her own before Henry Higgins gave her a second glance.) We wouldn’t all have that at least one friend who settled for “low hanging fruit” (those are the words of a dating coach from that afore mentioned singles event) because he showed interest in her and she couldn’t handle being single for two minutes. Being saved by a man who boosts your ego does not equal confidence. If your protagonist’s journey involves gaining confidence, please oh please let the source be just about anything that’s not a man. We, as romance writers, are trained to think about conflict and character arcs. But you know what? In the end, a “happily ever after” has more to do with chance, chemistry and sexual tension than anything else. All of that self-discovery and contrived confidence building matters a lot less (if at all). Getting married is NOT an accomplishment. Yes, relationships take work. But. Natalie Brooke says is best:
“You don’t have to have a brain, drive or special skill set to get married. You just have to have a willing partner.”
She also points out that:
“It is 2016 and being popped the question is still more celebrated than academic and professional pursuits of women. Yes, college graduations and landing a great career and receiving wonderful promotions are all received with happiness from friends and family, but not even close to the same level of elation received when you announce that you are getting hitched. This is my experience, at least.”
So, Single Ladies. You haven’t found your match. That's very much okay. Don't ever let anybody tell you that being single is a) a problem and / or b) something for which you should be blamed.  Don't ever settle:  
"Playing with matches
A girl can get burned
So,
Bring me no ring
Groom me no groom
Find me no find
Catch me no catch
Unless he's a matchless match."
Most importantly, never forget that you, like the protagonists you write, are astonishing:
“There's a life That I am meant to lead A life like nothing I have known I can feel it And it's far from here I've got to find it on my own Even now I feel it's heat upon my skin. A life of passion that pulls me from within, A life that I am making to begin. There must be somewhere I can be Astonishing Astonishing I'll find my way I'll find it far away I'll find it in unexpected and unknown I'll find my life in my own way Today"
Hopefully, the same is true for your protagonists. Oh, and hey. Don’t worry. Just like last time, I’ll leave you with some Beyonce (By coincidence, I found this video thanks to a Facebook post from the organization that offers my self-defense classes):
“They love the way I walk 'Cause I walk with a vengeance And they listen to me when I talk 'Cause I ain't pretendin' It took a while, now I understand Just where I'm going I know the world and I know who I am It's 'bout time I show it (ahh)”

* What traits do you like to see in a confident protagonist? Feel free to give examples! 

Melina writes contemporary romance with a pinch of oregano and a dash of chutzpah. She loves to travel, especially to her family’s village in Crete, and turn her adventures into research for her novels. In July of 2012, she moved to Jerusalem with her adorable but sneaky cocker spaniel. Her family now includes an incredibly sweet yet troubled rescue puppy. You can visit her at http://melinakantor.com

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Below is a list of suggested topics by month, but if you’ve got your own idea, that’s great too. PANorama posts will appear on the last Sunday of each month, and are a chance for our chapter PAN members (PAN stands for Published Authors Network, a professional designation within RWA open to members who reach a certain level of sales) to visit the blog to share some of their wisdom and expertise. If you’re a PAN Member, please consider volunteering. If you have any questions, please be in touch! Please put CRWA Blog 2016 in the subject line of your email. Thanks! Melissa (aka Melina) melissadespina @ gmail.com January 
  • Goal Setting for the new year
  • Self-Editing Tips/Techniques/Methods That Work
  • PANorama – Goal and Motivation
February 
  • Important Characteristics of Your Heroine
  • Valentine’s Day & The Importance of Love
  • PANorama – Voice
March 
  • Writing a Hero Who is Worthy of Your Heroine's Love
  • Giving and Receiving Critiques
  • PANorama — Strong Secondary Characters Who Don’t Steal Your Story
April 
  • Building Strong Internal and External Conflict in Contemporary Romance
  • Character Arc – How to Make Your Characters Grow
  • PANorama — Writing a Series
May 
  • Villains We Love / Despicable Characters
  • Common Contemporary Vocations (Writing the doctor/nurse, military, business mogul / secretary, cowboy, etc.)
  • PANorama – Comedy and Humor
June 
  • Building Strong Internal and External Conflict in Contemporary Romance
  • Types of Conflict in Contemporary Romance Today
  • PANorama – Character Flaws
July 
  • 4th of July – The American Heroes – Writing Military / Rescue Heroes and Heroines
  • Conference Tips
  • PANorama – Relationships with Editors and Publishers
August 
  • Research, History, Fact-Finding Missions
  • Including Travel in your Writing
  • PANorama – Story Structure
September 
  • Balancing Your Writing Life / Day Job Life / Family Life
  • Writing Process – Are You a Plotter or Pantser?
  • PANorama – Antogonists. . . Why we need them
October 
  • Preparing for & Surviving NaNoWriMo
  • Halloween – Incorporating Paranormal Elements in Contemporary Romance
  • PANorama – Writing Your Protagonist’s Best Friend
November 
  • Share Your Successful Query Letters
  • Surviving NaNoWriMo / “Don’t Look Down” Drafts
  • PANorama – Writing is Hard. Why Do We Do It?
December 
  • Writing for the Holidays
  • Looking Back at Your Year of Writing

Strong Writing Regimen. Strong Body.

~ By Liza Keogh

My writing regimen is getting stronger. Fifteen months ago, I formally ended one career and began to write fiction. I had a yearlong arc of transition ahead of me, and the planets seemed well-aligned to support a multitude of big changes in my life.

My body is suffering. My hip joints are achy, the herniated disc in my lower back is very testy, and my core strength is a thing of the past. Photographs attesting to what once was survive, otherwise, I might have a hard time proving how strong and limber I used to be.

Any of that sound familiar? I knew, going in, that many daily hours in the seated position was deleterious to one's health. Heck, I'd been working with people for over ten years to improve their posture and muscle tone, even to set up at-home yoga and meditation practices to keep them tuned up between classes or private sessions.

And here I was, ignoring my own advice. Perhaps I was thinking I would be immune to the effects of having my butt in a chair for up to eight hours a day. Perhaps I thought the sugary treats my brain was suddenly craving were part and parcel of 'becoming a writer'.

Now what?

Here's what I know: We humans are meant to move (not just be moved). We benefit even more from moving our bodies in different directions. Getting out into Nature regularly is good for our brains, our bodies, and likely our well of inspiration. Adequate water intake is essential, as are good eating habits.

If writing is our thing, and we have word counts and deadlines to meet, along with every other obligation in our lives, how do we keep the vehicle transporting us through this lifetime in good working condition?

Start somewhere. Now. Today, I put on exercise clothes as soon as I woke up, tied on my sneakers, and made myself a cup of rooibos chai tea with hazelnut milk. I am going to walk on my treadmill for 30 minutes before I start writing, and I am recommitting to an anti-inflammatory eating plan. That plan seems to work well for me: it helps ease the aches in my joints, melts off excess pounds, and sharpens my brain. To experience those benefits, however, I have to be rigorous and patient and remember that day three will be horrible.

Vary your vectors. That's a phrase that reminds us to vary our exercise routine. Our fascial system runs throughout our body on up and down, side to side, diagonal, spiral and intersecting pathways. It needs water to stay healthy, 'juicy', and it needs movements to keep from getting sticky. Before I walk on my treadmill I'll do a 10-15 minute functional movement warm-up (see below for a link to my favorite). I've tried running, even once hired a coach to teach me the mechanics of running, and I failed miserably. So, I stick with what I know instead of setting unattainable goals.

Make a plan. After I write, and before I get on my exercise mat later in the day, I'll record a fifteen- to twenty-minute Pilates routine. I have notes and pencil figure drawings from a series of private sessions I signed up for last summer. That was months ago, I know, but I had this idea for a story and... you know how it goes.

Little ideas:

  • Used exercise equipment is out there. My well-loved treadmill cost $100.
  • Get thee to a class. Go with a friend. Pay attention to the instructor, and pay attention to what your body is telling you as you move, and afterward. Get to know your body as well as you know your favorite characters.
  • Get thee to an on-line class. Youtube is a great, free resource. Start with Ed Paget's F.A.S.T. class, and explore the rest of the offerings at Intrinsi, Osteopathic Clinic and Natural Movement Center (Please note: I have no connection with them whatsoever, other than admiring their approach to human movement, and the clarity of instruction. I did a lot of research over the years for clients, and the Intrinsi site is consistently good. Check out the videos on the pelvic floor, too.)
  • Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, become more aware of your posture.

I'd love to know how others keep themselves healthy, or what got them back into caring for their health.

Liza Keogh has extensive experience leading yoga retreats, often in conjunction with writing coaches and therapists. She founded and ran a successful yoga center in Massachusetts and for over ten years brought yoga to venues that included public parks, corporations and low-income health centres.

Most days, she can be found in her writing cabin, working towards her next Life Goal: becoming a published author. You can find her blogging at https://lizakeoghblog.wordpress.com, and on twitter @lazy_liza_k.

Valentine’s Day and the Importance of Love

~ By Mary E. Thompson

I really like four letter words. Some of my favorite words are four letter words.

I’ll spare you the ones that I save for the person who cuts me off in traffic (when my kids aren’t with me) or my books, but my favorite four letter word is Love.

What does love mean?

According to dictionary.com, love means…

A profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person

Or

A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend

Or

Sexual passion or desire

We have a lot of ways to use the word love. I love the Buffalo Bills, even though they have the longest playoff drought in NFL history. I love pizza, even though my waistline doesn’t. I love my kids. Period. No conditions on that one. I love my parents and my family and my friends.

And I love my husband.

I’m very lucky to have a husband who is always there for me. He’s my best friend and the love of my life. He stood by me when I lost my job. When I had no idea what to do with myself. When I decided to pick up a career without any idea what I was doing. When we had kids. When I was scared, countless times. When I faced, and beat, stage four cancer.

Today is the day to celebrate that kind of love. It’s Valentine’s Day. Everyone around the world is getting flowers or candy or cards or some other token of affection from their loved ones. My kids brought Valentine’s cards in for their classmates and teachers. The grocery stores have been filled with flowers and everything you can imagine in a heart shape. Pink and red have exploded everywhere.

Don’t even think about ignoring the day, because you can’t.

Why is a holiday with very little ties to any one culture or religion such a big deal?

St. Valentine was a martyr of the Catholic church and is reported to have been put to death on February 14, 269. He was imprisoned for marrying Christian couples and converting people to Christianity. While he was imprisoned, I’ve heard he wrote letters to people, love letters in a way, encouraging them toward love. In the third century, love was still a foreign concept as arranged marriages and betrothals claimed most people.

These love letters inspired Valentine’s of today. It’s a holiday that has become far less religious, even removed from the Roman Catholic calendar in 1969, and much more secular. You will find people of every faith and background celebrating.

But again, why?

Because love knows no boundaries. Love doesn’t care if you’re from different backgrounds, different races, different countries, or the same. Love doesn’t care if you knew each other growing up or just met yesterday. Love is love. And when you love someone, nothing else truly matters.

What would you do for love?

Would you sacrifice a friendship?

Would you give up your favorite food?

Would you skip your favorite tv show?

Would you give up your life?

They may not all be easy answers, but I’m willing to bet you would say yes. Love is so powerful that you would do anything for it. Not just to hold on to it, but to spare the person you love from suffering. To see them smile. To hear I love you.

Every single person wants to be loved. We all want to find that person we can laugh and cry and yell and fight with. The one you can say anything to and be your true self and know they’re going to love you no matter what. We all want to find that one person who makes us feel like we can do anything. Because when love is in our lives, we can.

We are surrounded by love every day. It’s on the radio, on tv, and in the books we write and read. Love adds an element of humanity to the most vicious of people. It makes things okay that wouldn’t be if not for the love driving them.

Love takes the darkness of life away. It makes you smile. It makes you healthier. It makes you get up every morning.

Just try to say I love you without feeling good. Without feeling that love seep into you, making your heart race just a little faster. Making your lips turn up in a grin. Making you reach out for the person you’re saying it to.

Love is the one thing in the world that can never be taken away. And that is why today is such a wonderful day. Because it’s a chance to celebrate how much we love each other. As friends, as family, as lovers.

Say I love you to someone today. You won’t regret it.

Then do it again tomorrow, and every other day. Because love should be celebrated… always.

Mary E. Thompson writes scintillating stories with a side of hope. As a lover of love, her stories center around love in many forms from family to friends to, of course, romantic love. Her 30th release comes out March 7. She spends her days hoping she’s raising her daughter and son to be good people and her nights snuggling with her own romance novel worthy husband. Visit her website at http://MaryEThompson.com to learn more.

2017, Shakespeare, and a Dose of Inspiration

rebeccagraceallen~ By Rebecca Grace Allen

Let’s be brutally honest here: 2016 totally stunk. As a writer and, well, a human, I struggled on every level. My creativity shuddered to a halt. I hit a massive writers block. My relationships suffered. I gained ten pounds. There were times when I wondered why I was doing this whole writing thing in the first place. Then I remembered, it’s because there are stories bubbling up inside me that I have to tell. Stories that I hope will be timeless, ones that will live on beyond me. And sometimes, to write that kind of timeless tale, I need a little inspiration.

Sometimes I find that inspiration in Shakespeare.

I saw my first live Shakespeare performance when I was 14, in a black box theater in Manhattan. I immediately fell in love—with the language, the costumes, the drama, and how the themes of betrayal, corruption, deception and love still rang true today. In high school English class, I adored reading Hamlet while everyone else rolled their eyes at the iambic pentameter. I became an English major in college, and rushed to enroll in a Shakespeare course, dutifully carrying my 2057 page, coffee-stained Riverside Shakespeare around campus. (I also went to a school where a lot of student-run events took place in a building named Falstaff’s. Eat, drink and be merry, anyone?)

These days, I don’t crack open that old Riverside (which, yes, I still have) all that often, but I do watch movie versions. And I’m still amazed at the timelessness of the stories, the classic romance and angst, and how we continue to make his work relevant by creating modern adaptations of it. So I thought I’d share some of my favorite modern-ish adaptations:

West Side Story (1961)

It’s not modern, but it’s the best variation on Romeo and Juliet in my opinion. (Don’t get me started on the Baz Lurhamn version *shudders*.) The idea of putting those star-crossed lovers from rival families into warring gangs and setting it all to music was just brilliant. As an aside, I once performed in an adaptation called South Shore Story, where the North Shore conservative Jews of Long Island were foes of the South Shore Reformed ones. “I feel frummy, oh so frummy...”

Much Ado About Nothing (1993)

This one isn’t a modern take at all, but rather what I consider a perfect portrayal of exactly what The Bard intended. The performances are perfect—I heart Kenneth Branagh’s “Love meeeee! Why?” Plus it’s got Emma Thompson, Kate Beckinsale, Keanu Reeves, Denzel Washington and Robert Sean Leonard.

Midsummer Night’s Dream (1999)

I’ve always loved this comedy of errors, and the idea of characters falling in love with the wrong characters only to finally end up with the right ones. That’s what romance is made of, right? And with Kevin Kline as Bottom and Stanley Tucci as Puck, how can you go wrong?

Hamlet (2000)

Modern setting, techno music, classic language, and Ethan Hawke. Did I mention Ethan Hawke? Oh, and yeah, Ethan Hawke.

10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

This modern version of the Taming of the Shrew will always be one of my favorites. Classic 90’s. Classic Shakespeare. And Classic *sigh* Heath Ledger.

via GIPHY

Now in 2017, I think of myself, and all the rest of us writers, contributing to the collective cannon of literature. It’s a tough time in the world out there, and I know now, more than ever, we creative types have to keep creating. After all, it wasn’t easy in Shakespeare’s time—bear-bating and no indoor plumbing!—and he kept writing. We can keep writing, too.

Rebecca Grace Allen writes sweet, sexy and soul searching romance, emphasis on the sexy! A caffeine addict, gym rat, wife, and fur-mommy, she lives in upstate New York with her husband, two parakeets, and cat with a very unusual foot fetish. Her newest release, TAMING SUGAR, is a modern day, BDSM, Taming of the Shrew, and releases on January 19, 2017.

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Meet Our New Secretary, Katina Drennan!

katina1A huge congratulations and thanks to our new board! 🙂

Next up in our introductions, we've have our new secretary, Katina Drennan.

Welcome, Katina!

Q. Please tell us a little bit about yourself. What drew you to writing?

A. I’ve always loved to read, so writing and language have always come easy to me. My first story idea came full blown after seeing a piece of jewelry in a magazine. At the time I had no idea what was proper or right, I just told the story the best way I knew how. I got a lot of interest in that story, but no sale. Years of study and commitment have helped me put method to my madness. That story remains one of those I plan to revisit with the unique perspective only writers get to indulge: If I knew then what I know now.

Q. Why is contemporary romance important to you?

A. I just really love the time we live in.  How lucky are we to have all the modern conveniences, fast cars, airplanes, cell phones, and a romantic and sexual freedom. Even when I straddle into the past, it always seems to be a time travel, with one foot firmly in the contemporary world.

Q. How has the chapter helped you with your writing career?

A. I am inspired by the many successful authors in our chapter, many of whom have contributed their time and energy to present classes and share experiences. Writing is such a solitary venture, it’s important to establish relationships with other authors as a reality check, if nothing else!

Q. What does your position involve? What are some of your main roles?

A. As secretary, I record and post meeting minutes to our RWA archives and help to welcome new members to the group, and I have a vote on matters of importance to keeping the chapter strong and vital .  This year, we have stepped up to help our members keep their memberships up to date by reminding them their membership is about to expire. This is really important, especially if a member is interested in holding office at some future date. RWA is working on a system to notify members about Chapter memberships coming up for renewal.  Until then, I am doing what I can to give members a heads up before their membership expires.

Q. What are your goals for the chapter? What would you like to see happen over the next year?

A. I would like to do what I can to get more engagement in the group. A member doesn’t have to serve on the board to volunteer to keep the chapter vital and engaging. I love the idea of revitalizing our crit group and making the Stiletto Contest the GOTO contest among the chapters!

img_2025Q. Other than the fact that you’re a writer, what else would you like us to know about you?

A. I try to balance my time in the chair in front of the computer with getting myself outdoors.  I am a rabid bicyclist and my husband and I try to get two or three bicycle adventures in a year.  Our next trip will be to the big island of Hawaii, where we’ll ride the entire perimeter and visit the volcanoes. Last October, we rode from Seattle to Mt. Rainier, Mt. St. Helens, and Mt. Hood. My other great love is cooking and I try to incorporate that into my stories when I can.

Thank you, Katina, for all of your hard work and dedication to the chapter! 

Meet Our New VP of Communications, Louise Knott Ahern!

louiseA huge congratulations and thanks to our new board! :-) Over the next few weeks, we'll be introducing each new board member. Next up, come meet our new VP of Communications, Louise Knott Ahern (w/a Lyssa Kay Adams)!.

Q. Please tell us a little bit about yourself. What drew you to writing?

A. I've always been a writer. My family tells me I would carry around a notebook and a pencil before I could even read, so I was born with the writing bug. I spent the first 20 years of my professional career as a reporter and editor before finally realizing my lifelong dream of publishing my first novel, Seventh Inning Heat, in March 2016. I can't imagine NOT being a writer. In fact, if I go more than two days without writing, I get cranky.

Q. Why is contemporary romance important to you?

A. I read and enjoy almost all genres of romance, but I write contemporary because it's the genre where I feel I can tell the kinds of stories I write best -- stories of real women facing real-life obstacles in a modern setting. I want readers to see themselves in the small details of my books, whether it's through the tough-as-nails struggles of women in male-dominated fields or the eye-rolling nuisances of dealing with the pressures of being social-media perfect or even just the daily joys of motherhood.

Q. How has the chapter helped you with your writing career?

A. Primarily through the friendships and relationships I've made through the chapter! This chapter is full of wickedly talented writers who I learn from every day. Chapter events are also a huge benefit, such as the webinar last year featuring K.M. Weiland and the Novelicious retreat at the last RWA National conference. I can't imagine trying to navigate a romance writing career without being part of RWA or this chapter.

Q. What does your position involve? What are some of your main roles?

A. As VP Communications, I'm the go-to person for the chapter's Facebook group, website, Yahoo group (which was what we used before creating the Facebook group) and other chapter communications. If you need any help accessing any of our various groups, you can ask me! I also monitor the chapter's main email account: RWAContemporaryRomance@gmail.com 

Q. What are your goals for the chapter? What would you like to see happen over the next year?

A. I was so glad to see us switch to a Facebook group last year, and I'd love to see us continue to make use of that social media platform to build our community and nurture relationships. Primarily, though, I want to make sure every member feels they are always aware of the goings-on of the chapter!

Q. Other than the fact that you’re a writer, what else would you like us to know about you?

A. I live in Michigan and never complain about winter. I actually love snow. Love, love, love snow. I'm a happy little penguin when it snows. But the real light of my life is my family-- my 11-year-old daughter and my husband of 16 years. We are an unconventional family, and if we ever had a family photo shoot, it would have to feature my husband yelling at someone on the phone (he's a sports editor), my daughter grumbling about changing her lucky basketball socks, and me with a disgusted look on my face as I cleaned out whatever rotten vegetables have turned to goo in the fridge. We also have a pesky Maltese who buries things all over the house. I once found a donut in my underwear drawer, and just last weekend, my daughter yelled down from her room, "Mom, there's a pancake under my pillow." Yes, he will end up in a book someday!

Thank you, Louise, for all of your hard work and dedication to the chapter! 

Meet Our New VP of Programs, Melanie Greene!

MelGreene 2A huge congratulations and thanks to our new board! :-) Over the next few weeks, we'll be introducing each new board member. Next up, come meet our new VP of Programs, Melanie Greene.

Oh, and, guess what?

Today is her birthday!

Welcome, Melanie! And happy birthday!

Q. Please tell us a little bit about yourself. What drew you to writing?

A. Because my 5th grade teacher told me I was her only student allowed to start a sentence with ‘because,’ I decided to be a writer when I grew up.

Q. Why is contemporary romance important to you?

A. I love using the best age-old story – the journey to love – to explore the world we live in. It’s great fun to create a heightened reality that feels ready to step off the page and into our lives.

Q. How has the chapter helped you with your writing career?

A. In addition to the networking with so many talented and charming fellow novelists, I’ve benefited from many just-what-I-need-right-now CR-RWA workshops over the years.

Q. What does your position involve? What are some of your main roles?

A. As VP of Programs, I will be ensuring our members, and the wider community, are aware of the many exciting workshops we are offering in 2017. I'll facilitate workshop signups and attendance. I'll also be lining up 2018 workshops, helping to plan our National Conference event, and working with the Stiletto Committee.

Q. What are your goals for the chapter? What would you like to see happen over the next year?

A. I’m excited about the workshop presenters and their offerings for 2017, and want to see our members taking full advantage of their expertise. I’m always interested to hear what other topics our members would like to see offered, so reach out to me – mel@melaniegreene.com - with your workshop wish list!

Q. Other than the fact that you’re a writer, what else would you like us to know about you?

A. I’m a total night owl. If your in-box chimes at 2 a.m., it’s probably me. Sorry in advance! 

Thanks for all you do for the chapter, Melanie! :-) Enjoy your birthday! 

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Melanie Greene is a native Houstonian, a life-long writer, an avid reader of every kind of fiction, though mostly of romance. 

Melanie's greatest pleasure is in creating characters who feel like friends, then giving them challenges to overcome on the way to Happily Ever After. 

She shares her life with her own hometown hunk of a husband and children so amazing they defy superlatives.

Meet Our President, Casey Clipper!

caseyA huge congratulations and thanks to our new board! :-) Over the next few weeks, we'll be introducing each new board member. First up, come meet our new president, Casey Clipper. Welcome, Casey!

Q. Please tell us a little bit about yourself. What drew you to writing?

A. I can’t say for sure what drew me to writing. I’ve always been a reader. My mother helped encourage that love for reading and as a teen, even though I came from a family with 4 girls, without much money, my mom would make sure I had a book to read. I vividly remember the Sweet Valley High book series littered over my bedroom. But when I actually started writing was a few years ago, when I read a popular novel and thought that I would have written it much differently. So essentially, I wrote my version of fan fiction. Of course, that first penned manuscript is so badly written it will never see the light of day.

Q. Why is contemporary romance important to you?

A. Contemporary is what I connect with best. It’s what I read. Whether it’s suspense, erotica, or new adult, it’s the genre that I enjoy the most and I can easily get into when writing. I could never be a good researched when it comes to a genre like historical or even be that inventive when it comes to making up worlds like fantasy or paranormal. Contemporary just plain works for me.

Q. How has the chapter helped you with your writing career?

A. The Contemporary Romance Writers and the RWA in general has taught me not only about the romance genre itself and vastly improved my writing through workshops, but also about the professionalism and industry connections. I truly believe that RWA and its chapters are invaluable in that manner. I’m a self-published author and I read a lot. There is a significant difference in RWA authors/writers than non-members. You can tell from Facebook posts and from reading novels of authors who haven’t been given professional advice and training.

But more than anything, the connections I’ve made through RWA and the CRW and other chapters are invaluable. I’ve made such good writing friends, who understand this world I have created for myself. They “get” me and I get them. So many kindred spirits that I now know are out there, when previously, I thought I had been all alone.

Q. What does your position involve? What are some of your main roles?

A. Lol! I have no idea. Kidding. As president of the chapter, essentially I oversee everything. So the president has her hands dipped into all the roles, as oversight of the chapter and to make sure everything is running smoothly and as should be. She calls all board meetings and schedules the general membership meeting. The president can also hold the vote that might break a tie on the board regarding policies and procedures. The president has to make sure that any new policies and procedures voted by the national board is put into place by the chapter, documented, and voted on by chapter members. The president of a chapter also represents the chapter at nationals. There is actually a lot of little, but big things, the president is responsible for that aren’t nearly as visible as some of the other board positions when it comes to the running of a chapter.

Q. What are your goals for the chapter? What would you like to see happen over the next year?

A. One of my main goals is to open up the board meetings to all members. I’d like the board meetings to be open to all CRW members so each member can see what’s happening behind the scenes. Currently, this is not in place and I’m not a fan of that. I truly feel that this is important. That all members should be given access to what the board, that they voted in, is doing for the chapter that they have paid to be a part of. So, I’m in communications with RWA to utilize one of their meeting forums to be able to open up our board meetings for members to watch in on, since we meet online.

Another item is to bring back the Stiletto contest. Right now, I’ve been spearheading the Stiletto committee and they’ve been doing a fantastic job with suggestions and their vast knowledge of contests. The Stiletto used to be one of those contests that authors would love to win and I want to bring that back to the chapter. We’ve been discussing new categories and I think this committee will definitely bring something different and valuable to the Stiletto, once again, making the contest thrive.

Also, the party at nationals I’d like to see become the party that it was well known for in years past. So, this is one of the first items on the agenda I’ll be bringing up to the new board, since it takes months to plan.

But the main agenda I have is getting the chapter back on track where members benefit from having a Contemporary Romance Writers membership. I don’t want any member to feel that they got nothing from their membership dues. I understand that every dime in today’s world counts and there are so many chapters to choose to join. I want all members to feel that they’ve chosen correctly with joining CRW.

Q. Other than the fact that you’re a writer, what else would you like us to know about you? A. I do work full time as a secretary for an outpatient physical therapy office in Pittsburgh, PA. I changed jobs for the first time in 13 years this past May and man, did it rock my world, especially my writing. I went from a mom-and-pop business that was dying to one of the busiest corporate companies in Western PA. Talk about a shock to the system and the writing mojo. It took months to get back into the writing groove.

I’m married with two boys, one 24 and one 16, and a cat named Bob, who is the king of our castle. So, I’m surrounded by men. I am the oldest of four sisters, all crazy Irish women, who give their poor father headaches daily, still. Lol. And I have a slight obsession with penguins. Well, maybe not so slight. ;-)

Thank you, Casey, for all of your hard work and dedication to the chapter! 

Writing is Hard. Why Do We Do It?

It’s the last Sunday of the month, which means that it’s time for one of our chapter PAN members (PAN stands for Published Authors Network, a professional designation within RWA open to members who reach a certain level of sales) to visit the blog to share some of their wisdom and expertise.

This month, Mary E. Thompson is here to inspire us with some thoughts on why we write. Which for those of you who are striving to write 50,000 words this month, may feel like an extremely timely question.  Take it away, Mary!

MaryEThompson~ By Mary E. Thompson

Eight months ago a friend of mine released her first book. Leading up to the release, she did a countdown to release day on social media, shared it with everyone she knew, and was crazy excited. Three months later, sales were dismal. Recognition wasn’t there. She was discouraged.

Another friend took on a second job because her writing income wasn’t what she hoped for.

Yet another friend waited months to hear back from a submission only to get rejected.

None are new stories. Most authors start out the same way. No one knows who you are. No one is interested in your books. You pour yourself into a book and get a horrible review that rips the book, and your heart, to shreds.

So why do we do it? Why do we keep writing, keep pushing through in a career that may never be much more than a hobby? Why don’t we walk away and do something with more stability? A higher chance of success?

I think there are two reasons we keep going. Maybe only one of them drives you. Maybe it’s both. I’m guessing it’s both.

Faith

You know, without a doubt, that you have a book inside you that is going to make it all worthwhile.

We all want that elusive mega-success that seems to come so easily to some. We all computer-pc-workplace-home-office-159760want our book to be the next breakout story. The one that has movie producers and readers knocking down our door. We want the bestseller list and the raving fans that make every book bigger than our wildest dreams.

And we’re creative people. We have some crazy dreams.

If you don’t have faith in your own storytelling abilities, you’re going to give up. You know you’re good. You keep writing and learning and writing some more. Your books get better. Writing gets easier. You gain more recognition. You know it’s all going to pay off.

You have faith.

Compelled

You truly have no choice. You’ve tried something else. Maybe you had a different career before. Or you have a second one now. Maybe writing was something you’ve always wanted to do.

No matter what, you’ve thought about walking away. Giving it all up and doing something else.

But you just can’t.

There are stories inside you. Stories that are demanding you tell them. Stories that you have to get out. It doesn’t matter if you have a million fans or one, you have to tell your stories.

How could we not do it?

Readers flock to romance. Everyone wants love. Romance novels make us believe anything can happen when love gets involved. Your best friend’s cute older brother will want you. The hot guy from your favorite coffee shop asks you out. Your sexy boss is pining for you. Anything is possible. 

Is it any wonder we simply can’t stop writing our stories? Helping people fall in love? Pushing them to their limits only to shove them a little further to help them find that one person we all want to find? We can’t stop writing any more than our fans can stop reading. And that is a beautiful love story!

Mary E. Thompson writes scintillating stories with a side of hope. She’s been indie published from the beginning. Her 26th release comes out November 29. She spends her days hoping she’s raising her daughter and son to be good people and her nights snuggling with her own romance novel worthy husband. Visit her website at http://MaryEThompson.com to learn more.